Gone are those days when people do tedious jobs to make a living, mankind would have to fall trees in the forests with cutlasses and hoes. Mankind would walk through rivers, mountains and deserts to find fortune. Gone are those days when somebody would think of going to the end of the world to bring peace and harmony to his kingdom or going into the spirit world to seek for power and healing.  Gone are those days whereby work is the order of the day and pleasure its only observe at nights or at festive periods in some cases. Yet today, many people live in anguishes, many work very hard yet they earn peanuts, many work intelligently yet there knowledge are been embezzled. Many are obscured by the troubles in their families and in their relationships, many suffer of self-incompetence or incompetence of the state, many lack in some areas of life, marital financial or failures surrounding one’s self. And many happiness and pleasure is far away from them that they don’t ever think of fun at all.

What does having a fun mean?  Having a fun could be when somebody is enjoying his/her self under an entertaining atmosphere or placing one’s self in a happy and pleasurable mood. Est.

Reasons for having a fun:  The reason why somebody would want to have fun could be because one is bored or have need to be entertained, be happy with friends and peeps. Have the need to enjoy life to the fullness, to keep away from thing that upsets you temporarily or permanently. 
When something is said to be undesired it is said to be?  A want that preferred not to be part of, something you want to be excluded from. Something unwanted.

Circumstances for an undesired fun:  Somebody could be having an undesired fun because he/she is lonely, under oppressions of marital relationship, running away from troubles in the house or in the family e.g. nags all around in the house, business failures, financial breakdown, lack in some areas of life, unable to live up to expectations. Finding yourself in a situation whereby happiness is a word searched for, you are pieced off with the things you find around you, running away from hearth pressure, things are not working out and it’s eating you up. Nevertheless, whenever somebody finds his/her self in these circumstances someone would want to go for a fun in some places. However, when you ever go for a fun which I would call an ‘undesired fun’, you would find out that these fun would only last for just a moment of which it can never change your situation neither would it solve any of your problems in any ways.

 

Benefits of undesired fun: Somebody who is having an undesired fun would observe that it would keep him/her away from heartbroken and temporarily you would forget about you problems. It would add more life to your life span rather than cut it short. At least for once you would have made yourself happy for a period of time. And more benefits it would have which I have not mentioned here.

 

Making undesired fun work for you:  If you ever find yourself having a fun you never desired for you should not allow your problems possess you not even in your place of fun. You should take advantage of that position, think very well while dancing, drinking a glass of wine, or in the Cinemas. Take your time to observe the people around you, select a category of people you would study. Observe your situation and try hard to figure 3 things out. i.e. 1, what are you not doing right. 2, desire for a change. 3, take a bold step toward the rightful change.

It is important to have fun in whatever circumstances you may find yourself, when you are happy, got money to spend, showing appreciation, going out for pleasure, you have visitors or together with friends; whatever. Not to have fun otherwise/the other way round as explained in the fifth paragraph above, those who I would say they have their own fun undesirably. Now is the time to have a deep thinking and change your situation all by yourself, because you would keep fooling yourself not me or anyone else. Your burdens are yours to desire whether you would continue carrying them or let go of them. Stop this undesired fun of life and have fun because you believe in yourself that you are happy and because things are well around you. Pick up your mantle of change now.

JASPER TASIE NKEMJIKA
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